Shazza1956 said:Oh my goodness that’s pretty amazing
Louise Kaye said:Starting date: 9 October 2018
Starting weight: 95.6
Current weight: 89.9
Lost: 5.7kg
Louise Kaye said:My experience so far: First and second day felt amazingly energised, and wasn’t hungry at all (for the first time in my life!). By the third day the intensity of the effects started to taper off. Day 8-10 felt extremely tired but seem to be mostly back to normal.
Side effects so far: Haven’t been too bad. I’ve had a bit of insomnia, but I’m used to managing it as I’ve had issues with sleep previously. Also had some mild skin irritations on my face which is less fun.
I had a bit of the dry mouth feeling, which just made me increase my water intake... so I’ll count that as a good thing. Finally, I got really tired and lethargic day 8-10 and found it hard to push myself to do any exercise more than walking. Think I’m coming out the other side of that and getting back to normalish energy levels.
Louise Kaye said:I have to say I found it soo refreshing and unusual not to have nagging hunger and food cravings 24/7. Anyone else felt that? Makes me realise how much food affects me :/ hopefully I can change my relationship with eating and food and get my body used to a different way of doing things.
From day 5 onwards I’ve definitley been feeling hungry again. But it’s is taking the edge off so I am able to say ’no’ to treats and second servings without an extreme internal battle lol (of course everyone has been offering me baked treats and other food at work!). Potentially considering asking for 30mg down the track as the side effects have been manageable.
Really late night last night socialising, but I’m proud that I didn’t drink, and kept my food portions under control. I just have to push myself today and tomorrow to do some more quality exercise for the week and clean the house (on no sleep eek) and I will be on track
Goodluck ladies (and gents)
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Rava said:Your very welcome @Louise Kaye
Great tip for constipation!
Thanks so much for sharing the info on psyllium husk - I didn't know that it didn't dehydrate or inflame the bowel - so its a great option!
Louise Kaye said:Plus I’ve been exercising hard and gaining strength and fitness. But the last 3 days I’ve gone from 89.9 to 90.6
Louise Kaye said:On top of that, the cravings and hunger are back full force, which is making life really hard so I feel like I need that number to be going down to give me the reminder that it’s worth it.
I’m only on 15mg so I decided to take 2 today to make it 30mg to see if that makes a difference.
Louise Kaye said:I also know that I obsess about weight loss, health and fitness to an unhealthy extent when I actively try to lose weight.
For some context (possibly just an excuse) - when I don’t obsess and I let go of body image issues, I feel happier and I achieve lots of wholeistic self improvement goals such as reading literature, learning new languages, progressing my learning of new topics, planning for the future etc. I also feel much more free.
However I crave food constantly, eat too much, and exercise too lightly or on a whim based on what is the most fun (I still always walk at least) and the weight creeps up. But then I usually bump up against the restrictions/ down sides of my weight - it’s harder to do the things I want to do and it hurt my joints more, and it’s embarrassing and expensive to have to buy larger clothes.
So I decide to bite the bullet and lose some weight and it’s all or nothing... I’m all in and I can’t think about anything else - I lose interest in everything but fitness and health (I do see the irony that this is a very unhealthy way to think). But letting go of that obsessiveness seems to inevitably lead to weight gain... even with passive lifestyle changes like walking to public transport, taking the stairs and eating mostly keto.
Louise Kaye said:Portion/calorie control works for me usually but it takes sooo much willpower for me. So I’m constantly seeking motivations, and trying to reward myself with my progress by thinking of how much better I already look and great I could look - despite the fact that looks were not the reason I started trying to lose weight in the first place - just a side bonus.
Nothing else seems to motivate in the same way, so I think I’m terrified of letting go of it as a motivating tool because I’ll quite possibly just go right back to gaining - and probably have an unhealthy binge out before getting back to just generally overeating.
The ‘thrill’ of seeing the number go down and of looking slightly thinner - or should I say slightly more like the magazines say we should look, is exhilarating and works as a little high for me. The other obsession I sometimes use is becoming so focussed on a sport or activity until i get frustrated with my lack of progress and inevitably feel resentful and it lose motivation - I don’t give up on it completely but it just stops being a powerful motivating force as soon as I’m not progressing as I’d like to.
Louise Kaye said:These little ‘highs’ compete with the ones I get from eating lots of good food and chocolate - so they help me to push through and be in control. This might sound weird but I also find it kinda fun to obsess - although i notice I become quite boring to anyone not also trying to get fit and lose weight lol.
Has anyone else successfully gotten out of this mindset and managed to be healthy in body and mind? Right now it feels like a trade off lol. If I’m honest with myself this mindset has contributed to cycles of weight loss and weight gain until I’ve gotten old enough that the obsessive weight loss cycle wouldn’t work without extra help.
I’m trying to face up to myself and this issue... but it’s like I have a mental block when I try to imagine other ways of thinking or motivating - nothing seems as powerful as the all or nothing approach, or the image based or sports obsessed approaches.
Any ideas welcome - please help!
Even if I don’t come up with an answer yet I’m glad I at least did some self examination and was honest to the forum and myself. Sorry for the massive post! <3
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I love this, and good on you for doing some research! Swapping the "should" with "want" is brilliant! I too have struggled with compromise - its part of that "all or nothing mindset".Louise Kaye said:1) Food speak - being thoughtful with food and eating language:
Most of the articles and studies about attitudes towards food mentioned how the 'black and white' approach to food can create an unhealthy relationship. For example deciding some food is 'good' or food that is 'bad' is not ideal - it is probably better to instead be focusing on getting the key nutrients we need and enjoying a variety of food (with some things just in moderation). The black and white negative talk about food is something I definitely do and I am going to try to stop. In addition, one article said to try replace the word 'should' with 'want' with food wherever possible - when you are planning what you want to eat, or when you slip up and eat too much of one type of food, try not to say I 'should eat salad' and I 'shouldn't eat pasta' as this will just make all the delicious healthy foods you actually want to eat feel like a chore subconsciously, and make our brains crave the thing it is being denied. Instead being aware of your choice and framing it positively e.g. 'tomorrow I want to eat a nice big salad with avocado and goats cheese and a side of grilled halloumi.' In addition something I have struggled with is just compromise. For example if we want pasta or pizza that's OK! It's just best to have it with some salad or veggies to get all the nutrients we need, and to try to eat it when we aren't at our hungriest so as not to over do it. This may seem like a small thing but it's a huge deal for me - I have decided to have pasta again for the first time in a long time. I will use my plate and salad to make sure I enjoy it and don't overdo it, so have about 50% salad, 25% protein, 25% pasta. This hopefully means I can eat everything and trust myself to eat in a healthy way.
Love your alternatives!Louise Kaye said:2) @Rava I recall you previously mentioned learning to avoid using food as a reward:
This is a big one for me too, so I wrote a list of other rewards and treats that are easy alternatives but are still comforting and nice, including:
- heating up a heat pack to sit with
- having a herbal tea
- getting a blanket out to snuggle under
- squishing my toes into the soft shagpile rug - or the sand at the beach
- have a nice warm bath
- getting a massage or getting my hair done
Louise Kaye said:3) Preparing for vulnerable moments - social eating:
Taking a moment before going out for a social dinner to center yourself, take a breath and make a plan to enjoy the night. For example, plan to grab a plate and fill it with healthy proportion of food, and will try a little of everything. Planning alcohol consumption can also be helpful. This is something I have already started doing an it has made eating socially so much less stressful. This again allows me to trust myself with food which is a huge step toward having a healthy relationship with food.
Louise Kaye said:4) After a slip up - addressing the mean self talk
After eating too much, or eating something 'forbidden' or not seeing the right number on the scales you might feel guilty and angry with yourself. I liked this quote for those situations:
"Note the Mean Girl mind chatter going on inside your head. Is your Mean Girl judging you? Is it telling you you’ve failed? Are you feeling guilty or angry with yourself? I want to remind you that that is just your Mean Girl doing her thang. Being harsh and fear based is its job, but it doesn’t mean it’s your truth."
I think this is a great way to look at it. It might be weird but I actually took this a step further, I found it helpful to think of the 'mean girl' as a bit like a cat. She will swat at you and harass you if she is ignored, but accept her nature and pay some attention to her and she will either purr affectionately (self love) or lose interest and leave you alone. I hope this doesn't sound too crazy, but hey it seemed to work - no more food guilt so far!